Anais Nin: You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book… or you take a trip… and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom (when hibernating becomes dangerous and might degenerate into death): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this (or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their families. They raise children. And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens them and saves them from death. Some never awaken.


Deny yourself (Part One)

Deny yourself. It's not as simple as it sounds. Sometimes having a super-large ego is not the answer to all of your problems fresh out of high school, college, or anywhere for that matter.

Just what does that mean.....DENY YOURSELF?

Ever heard of a "leap of faith", or "stepping out on faith"? Have you ever heard someone say they were going to take a risk on something they were afraid to do simply because they did not know what would happen?
DENYING YOURSELF is 1) an unconventional approach to jumping into the world or society or a lifestyle not previously experienced; 2) forgetting any social norms, any inhibitions, any insecurities or any psychological, physical, or emotional barriers( no this is not something as simple as having a one night stand or getting a hair cut) before embarking on a journey or personal experience lasting for a considerable amount of time. (I MAY ADD MORE DEFINITIONS!)

Examples include:
~Traveling abroad by yourself or with a friend in the summer between years of college
~ Moving to a different state.
~Quitting your JOB and going back to SCHOOL

The benefits of Denying Yourself varies. What you decide to do and the manner in which you carry out your plans have a profound impact on it's outcome. 
If you are considering doing something outside of the ordinary or DENYING YOURSELF
answer these questions truthfully before pushing the "GO" button:

Why do I want to do this?

What will I get out of this?

Are there any potential consequences that could occur as a result of this personal journey into the unknown?(Physical, mental, emotional, social)
How long will this take? Will I be able to stick it through?

How will this affect other people?


Men claim all-you-can-eat buffet banned them for eating all they could eat

HOUMA, La. -
Associated Press
A 265-pound man says a restaurant overcharged him for his trips to the buffet, then banned him and a relative because of how much they consumed during their visits.

Ricky Labit, a 6-foot-3 disabled offshore worker, said he had been a regular at the Manchuria Restaurant, eating there as often as three times a week. But on his most recent visit, he said a waitress gave him and his wife's cousin, Michael Borrelli, a bill for $46.40, roughly double the buffet price for two adults.

"She says, 'Y'all fat, and y'all eat too much,'" Labit said.

Labit and Borrelli said they felt discriminated against because of their size.

"I was stunned, that somebody would say something like that. I ain't that fat, I only weigh 277," Borrelli said.

Accountant Thomas Campo, who spoke for the restaurant because the owner's English is limited, said the men were charged an extra $10 each on Dec. 21 because they made a habit of dining exclusively on the more expensive seafood dishes, including crab legs and frog legs.

"We have a lot of big people there," Campo said. "We don't discriminate."

The argument over the bill grew heated, and police were called. The police report states that the disagreement was settled when the restaurant said the bill was a mistake and, to appease Labit, the meal was complimentary.

Labit said he insisted on paying but was told not to come back. He complained that when seafood on the buffet line runs out, the restaurant only grudgingly cooks more. Campo said the proprietress tries to reduce waste of quality food.

WOW. ALL- YOU -CAN -EAT IS NO LONGER ALL- YOU -CAN -EAT? This is jacked up. I mean this defeats the purpose of being an all you can eat buffet. Sure there will be a little more food to  serve, but personally, those people should have not been over charged and banned. 



I can't even breathe im so pissed offff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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New Year, Fresh Start, Reliving Life

I was listening to FM 98 WJLB  and Charles Pugh, our favorite Detroit news anchor/radio personality, was talking to a few listeners about New Year('s =not grammatically correct and ghetto as hell, according to Charles) Resolutions. Some people said that they did not want to have a resolution simply because they knew they were not going to do it, or their interest in stopping a bad habit of theirs would not be helped by merely saying they would not do it anymore. I was thinking that the people who were too lazy to at least attempt to stop were not only disappointing themselves, but they were fucking up any slight chance of ever changing their lives or turning a new leaf.

There. I said it. 

Not even attempting to try to change simple mindless shit in your life makes you look stupid. I know, I sound harsh. However, every attempt you make at conjuring up an excuse, lies  a greater, more efficient way for the resolution to work. Need an example?

By changing the actual terms you use when deciding on the decision you make, changes the way you act or it may change your results..."My New Year Resolution is to stop smoking"

No!!! Try, "I will stop smoking in the new year in order to change my health, change the life-altering habit I have been subjecting my body to, and to stop abusing myself and others quality of life."  

No, your resolution will not sound like this, eloquent and epic as it may be. 
(***this resolution requires a little help)

Most importantly, choosing things that are just beyond your reach is important. Not only will the resolutions you choose/decisions you make be attainable, they will be justified and will make you feel better about acheiving  and eliminating possible negativity in your life so you can move onto the next goal.

Part 2

I didn't think it would be fair to offer you advice about New Year resolutions without at least giving you the best of examples, My own.


1. I have to see my boyfriend Dezvon more because ...well i just have to; thats my baby.

2. Speak my mind more often.

3. Buy more clothes because its what I deserve. I have to look like the fashionista I think I am don't I?

4. Become that girl who everyone enjoys being in their life.

5. Hug people more.

6.Grow my hair= long, strong, healthy

7.Never compromise my integrity

8.Have fun while learning so my educational success is greatly appreciated

9. Impact my community in such a way that change is seen in everyone an everyone's life becomes better for it...

10.....I'm not sure... i haven't yet figured it out....